Baby on board badge

baby on board badgeEarlier today a friend sent me a text with a dilemma.

She had got on her usual train next to a woman who was pregnant and wearing a baby on board badge. There were no seats available and they ended up standing next to each other. The lady had a small bump and nobody sitting down had offered her their seat.

The train started moving and my friend wanted to know what to do: should she quietly ask those in the seats nearest the pregnant lady if one of them could give up their seat?

I’d love to know – what would you do?

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17 thoughts on “Baby on board badge

    1. Carla B Post author

      Thanks for your thoughts – really interesting. What about if you were pretty sure the commuters had seen but they just didn’t want to be the first to notice and offer their seat?

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  1. londonkirsty

    I have asked before for pregnant women but I do wonder why they don’t just ask themselves? Particularly to those sitting in the priority seats? It is their right to ask. I wonder if it’s down to previous negative experiences? I don’t think your friend should feel bad about not asking as she would have offered her seat had she had one to offer up.

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    1. Carla B Post author

      I think that’s key – as long as you offer a seat if it’s yours to give you don’t need to feel bad. Meddling in on behalf of the pregnant woman could be the wrong approach anyway – they might wish to stand that afternoon because they’re getting off at the next stop and could feel embarrassed if someone interfered on their behalf.

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  2. laura

    if she had a small bump people probably were in their own little worlds and didn’t notice she was pregnant if it were me I would politely ask those closest if they wouldn’t mind letter her sit down but on the other hand some people elderly pregnant say I’m ok I don’t need specially treatment I’m only pregnant so its a hard one

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    1. Carla B Post author

      It is a tough one! I think I’d probably ask them quietly if they wanted a seat – if they said yes and just felt too uncomfortable to ask themselves, then I’d be happy to ask on their behalf!

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      1. laura

        same, as long as they didn’t mind me asking I would otherwise they may feel uncomfortable being singled out in front of everyone

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      1. Tulasi S (H)

        I have been in this very situation and I asked the person would they mind to let the lady sit down, I could tell she wanted to sit by the way she was looking at the person in their seat. But the person gladly got up or at least didn’t put up a fight…. However I have also be in the situation where I didn’t notice a heavily pregnant woman who needed to sit down and felt very guilty when I someone else eventually offered their seat. .. even though I wasn’t in the priority seat. … bad midwife!!!! Furthermore….I also asked someone to move on behalf of a man who clearly had difficulty standing due to leg problems and the man was very grateful although he hasn’t asked. …. In conclusion if she just had a small bump I would probably just ask her and the ask the person to move nicely. Most people would move and prefer not to be confrontational. ……. The end

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        1. Carla B Post author

          It seems that everyone has been in this situation before with a story to tell! All responses have been really positive so far – everyone wants to do the best thing for all involved which has been really nice to read.

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  3. rachel665

    When I logged in with wordpress the comment I wrote disappeared :(
    I agree with the others- pregnant women should just ask themselves! I’ve never understood this attitude that people should automatically offer their seats. If you want one, just ask politely! I didn’t even have a badge when pregnant but whenever I asked someone if I could sit down they always said yes and didn’t even ask why. Londoners are generally lovely, and people in priority seats have to be prepared to give them up. If she waves a seat she should just ask!

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    1. Carla B Post author

      Thanks for commenting and sorry that your first comment disappeared! I’ll look into that… I’m pleased you had a positive experience on the train when you were pregnant, and I’d agree that for the most part Londoners are lovely people!

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